This winter season, I enjoyed an extraordinary moment: I flew! I’m not the first one, will you say, who experienced the sensation of flying, without having to jump out of a plane with a parachute, but rather enjoying wind-induced motion in a Plexiglas tube. There was no blue sky around, but it did not matter: what an incredible sensation — I finally understood Icarus’ persistence…
Why sharing this story? Because to be able to do so, I had to change, and stepping back now, the different steps that gave me the opportunity to fly illustrate perfectly an important concept in a coaching attitude: Permission, Protection, Power.
1. Giving permission
The idea was given by my elder son, fan of strong experiences. What a challenge before the end of the year: allowing me to fly, knowing that I hate planes and that I’d rather keep feet on a solid ground. Quietly, he went back to it several times, to shape the idea and let it grow, giving me the consciousness of what I really wanted to do, but that I did not allow myself to. It gave me the time to raise various primary and secondary psychological blockings. I started to say to myself “Yes, I can”.
2. Offering protection
Then, carried by the enthusiasm of succeeding without taking the risk to bring orphans, I almost “erased” everything that could prevent me from realizing this experience. My “coach” then brought me back to my senses and made me realize what “could eventually go wrong”. He gave me various information about the negative consequences of what I intended to do. It allowed me to admit that I could abandon at the very last moment, or my need to check the safety measures (place, material, medical conditions). In short, allowing me to prepare myself consciously, feeling protected working on the “What if…”
3. Unleashing power
The D-day, the familiar fear had come back, when watching the security instructions, wearing the fly-suit, and above all, seeing the other participants flying already. We had to jump, ok, but… really? Throughout our flying experience, I was given strong encouraging messages, showing no other possibility than trying, putting me first in the row. The professional coach also used the same process, mixing security, humor, and obligation to go for it.
During our second passage, we could choose whether we wanted to “fly quietly” or if we’d rather “fly up with the coach”. I had chosen the quiet option. The coach, in a glance and with a strong non-verbal message to dare, pushed me in less than a second to fly all the way up, in circle. He enabled me, by reframing my world, and releasing my limiting beliefs, to enjoy an experience far beyond that I could think I could do.
May you be inspired by these three interesting key steps, if you wish to challenge your co-workers and enable them to overcome obstacles.