Restarto Blog 2018

The weather is hot and fine…you still do not feel the hot sand between your toes, but soon! Over the past two weeks, I’ve heard the same injunction during coaching sessions: “I’m about to go on holiday, however I do wonder how I’ll be able to make it, since: a) I haven’t completed my work yet; b) my mind cannot rest knowing that…; c) I do not know how it will be possible for me to disconnect considering all that is left to do…

When working deeper at an emotional level, guiltiness often appears: for example, feeling guilty for letting the other dealing with the mess, not being good enough to have completed some tasks on time, or a lack of anticipation… And one spontaneous solution often emerges: if I work one hour per day during my holidays, it will help me keeping on track…

First of all, let me share good news: it is impossible to finish! The notion of completion has very little place in modern and complex organizations, with project management and multiple interactions. It does not meet the constant flow of emails, reminders, calls. It cannot satisfy the performance requirements, always better, faster, higher, as a never ending race. You will never be able to finish.

Then, one reminder, beyond the legal invitation to “disconnection”: if there is one moment in the year to make a real break… it’s when you are on holidays, real ones! Long vacation, in opposite to short breaks, are an invitation to real moments far away from work, to concentrate on meaningful things: whether you enjoy the silence of the mountains or of your own house, a drink with friends or sandcastles with kids, discovering paraglider or learning how to paint, it’s time for you not to work at all ! Let your kids play, sleep, dream, laugh, be bored, or build a cabin, they’ll have plenty of time to do their homework later on; let the pile of holiday educational workbooks at the bookshop, and offer them as well to disconnect! Is there an exception to the rule? When it comes to be the hotline for people security issues, for specific professions, and at precise moments known in advance…

Focus on the great living energy that you will store to come back in full health and shape in a few days or weeks, and think of all the time given to live differently, to reconnect with what does you good, and to offer you a well-earned break (yes, earned!). By the way, I do intend to do exactly the same. See you in September!